Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Dilemma of Working Mom.....

Yup, I'm in dilemma again....Of course it is related to my princes again. For my job, I don't have that kind of dilemma or stress and I don't know why, if it involves my kids, I will be more stress and pressure in making decision. Another few more months to go, Jona will be attending primary 1(morning session). And, I have to make a final decision.

His current kindy/daycare don't accept primary 1 student due to not enough caretakers and teachers to manage the kids. And, this force me to look for a daycare specialise in taking primary student. Today, I manage to find one which everyone telling me it is a good daycare/tuition centre. But, when I called to check some info, I found out that currently, they have 35 students in that centre. Further checking the principal told me that their maximum intake will be 40!! It seem the student:teacher ratio is quite high and I wonder how would they able to handle my Jona well.

Of course, another point that I dislike about this daycare cum tuition, is because their fee automatically include tuition fees!! I really don't want my Jona to attend tuition class everyday after school!! I want him to enjoy his childhood life - 'throw' away his school bag after school, take easy shower, watch tv for a while and take a short nap before waking up doing his homework....In the evening, go to playground to play and sweat out. That would be my wish for my Jona before he enter his teenager or primary 4 or 5.

I don't think primary one student should be burden with tuition daily. Plus I bet his chinese primary school has already got piles of homework to finish daily.....

Arrgghhh...only if I'm stay at home mom, then, I bet I don't have this to worry about.....I do think of hire an in-house nanny which cook for my kids, tidy up my house for 5 working days, but, then, where can I find this local nanny?? My friend is hiring one currently as her work only allowed her to go back home around 9pm and no daycare willing to take her kids, so she got no choice which sometimes is good too....

Mommies, what do you think? Should I hire one in-house nanny to help me out with my kids? Or, I should register my Jona at this daycare + tuition or I should seek other daycare which don't really emphasize on tuition instead it is a pure daycare to help me manage Jona?? **Cross finger** still convince Jona current daycare to accept Jona by just provide him with normal daycare facilities....no extra tuition except coaching his homework.

10 comments:

IMMomsDaughter said...

I do agree with you that at Primary One, Jona should not have tuition daily. Do you trust having a stranger as a helper when you are not around? If you do, helper may be the best option, to ease your workload at home as well. If not, babysitter is another option.

Also, if you could convince the daycare cum tuition centre to take him in, it may be a good foundation for him to prepare him for tuition classes when he is older.

Wen said...

its not easy to make such decision. hope u find the best solution

chanelwong said...

I think I will get pening like you too...

I hope you will solve your stresssss soon

michelle@mybabybay said...

Any relatives who can help?

Uncle Lee said...

Hi Mamajo, being a mother is one of the highest paid salaried jobs in any field, since the payment is pure love.

And incidentally re your mention of 'stress'...
allow me to add.....
Whats the difference between stress, tension and panic?
Stress is when wife is pregnant.
Tension is when girlfriend is pregnant.
And panic is when both are pregnant.

You have a nice day and keep a song in your heat, best regards, Lee.

Sasha said...

i think, i rather send him to daycare with tuition. There he migle around with other kids, talk, play and of course learn something. I dunno la. i dun trust ppl staying alone with my kids.

Health Freak Mommy said...

Very difficult decision to make. Perhaps you can find a daycare center with fewer students? Having tuition is not too bad an idea. I will surely send Alycia to tuition classes too next year when she's in Std 1 coz I don't know Mandarin and don't know how to coach her.

Mummy to QiQi said...

i suggest finding another center. having a nanny at home is good too, but a bit pricey. my neighbour got one chinese auntie (who cooks for her kids kindy)to jaga her 3 kids Doremi. Rm1500 from 8am-7pm

Wai Wai said...

Hi Mamajo, pray for guidance and God helps you to make a wise decision.

MamaJo said...

Thanks, mommies for all your support and advices!! I do appreciate it.

ImmomsDaughter: Yeah, I don't like to have stranger in my house, so, I might sent him to daycare cum tuition....

Wen: Yup, wish me luck!!

Chanelwong: Pening, pening, still need to make decision lor...aiyah...

Michelle: No relative here except my sis who live quite far from me :( ...might need to move near to her :)

Uncle Lee: Thanks for dropping by. And, thanks for the joke too..haha..it indeed light up my day...for me, as momi, stress = pressure = tension :) never ending till my last breath

Sasha: Yalor, maid or in house maid, is not my first option...

HealthFreakMommy: Count me in....I almost vomit blood when I need to teach Iz about stroke :(

MommytoQiQi: Yup..when I got no choice, in house maid will be my last option...

WaiWai: Thanks for the prayer. Indeed will ask GOD for wisdom and guidance